Pretty sure that's not what anyone wants.
But maybe you feel like your marriage is drifting that direction right now…
Or maybe you're CRYSTAL CLEAR that you never want your marriage to look like that.
If that's you, keep reading!
Let's jump back to broken-hearted, hopeless me...
As I picked myself up off the shower floor and began recovering from my final breakup, one thing became clear:
On the other side of the pain, hopelessness, and “stuckness” I was experiencing... was a lesson.
If I didn't learn the lesson, I'd keep making the same mistakes, and making the same failures over and over again.
(Yup... that's insanity.)
Deep down I knew that if I could figure out why my relationships were failing, I could do something about it!
I could outgrow my struggles...
I could break this cycle of failure, and loneliness, and sadness...
And, I could have my dream: A ridiculously awesome marriage.
So, I got to work.
My goal was to “Close the gap.”
You know the gap I’m talking about...
It’s the gap between the things I knew I could be doing to make my life better... and the things I was actually doing.
I stopped spending all my time collecting information on podcasts, books, and workshops...
... and I started taking action.
And when I started taking action, I started seeing results!
The lessons came quickly.
I stopped repeating old, destructive habits that hurt or ruined my relationships.
I broke through the terrible communication habits that I’d cultivated.
I started having hard conversations.
I started owning my desires, and setting clear boundaries.
I got better at saying, "No" without feeling guilty about it.
I faced my fears and insecurities head-on.
And as I started doing the work... I met a girl and fell in love.
She put my skills to the test.
I was very honest with her... even when it was hard.
I refused to play the silly games couples play... even when it meant possibly losing her.
I stuck to my guns and my values... even when everything in my brain was telling me to take the easy road.
And eventually, BECAUSE I TOOK ACTION ON WHAT I KNEW, I married her. And she is truly the most incredible woman I’ve ever known.
Our relationship is stronger, healthier, and safer than any relationship I’ve ever been a part of.
And it just gets better and better with time.